Woes of a woman

Selden never saw her dad. She doesn’t believe in the need for one. She is as normal as any one of us. She was three months old when her dad broke up with her mom. And today she is standing at nineteen on the age scale. What would have been the wound like in that jewel heart of her mom? No doctor had the courage to answer and heal. Yet they (Mom and the daughter) had the same meal as you and me. Lawyers claimed to have mastered the laws and left this mom in the ruthless man’s paws. We men are rude, harsh and hard like tiger’s jaw. Aren’t we? At-least I saw few like him.
Those days her beauty attracted him. He claimed and promised of good life and Love as much as we do today. This is a love story of two decades ago—it is no different now. She was and is still an elegant, soft spoken, well mannered woman changing lives in the country side. She feeds her daughter with truth, weeps alone in a dark opportunity. Holding head higher than men, she proved that life is to be moved on. Her courage only encourages her daughter to be stronger and tougher. She missed all the kisses of a loving dad. Her mom got all the tears to drink of a woman’s life. Why did she ever become a wife?

She moved on with Selden learning to dress herself. She gazed at the moon on a lonely empty night and sang an unsung song. Who heard it—none. God must have seen her smile but mortals didn’t bother to share her joy. She had no idea of togetherness with a man she truly loved. Was he there as a husband or was he just a swine in bed? I let her describe that……..

Her struggle to claim that she lived a human life was awful. But Selden, her daughter gave all the strength to survive and pull on. She walked the “knife edged” life, either fall was dreadful. She lived half her life in tears, bearing and hearing her own cries.

Then came another man—was he unique and different? Her ‘joys’ were only ‘toys’.

He walked in to the rose garden wherein the rich fertile soil of her heart was longing for a bloom of true love. He planted the seed of his love in the humus soil of her heart and fenced it with all the promises of men’s giving. Selden had all the reason to see her mom sing and dance. And she did. She had escaped the claws of an emotional hunter. He rescued her of an outrageous plunge in to self pity. She had all the reasons to claim that life was beautiful after all. She loved him like Juliet fell for Romeo. Life was worth living in his arms. His promises were magnetic. His words had magic. His touché was tantalizing. His kiss was warm and always inviting. What more could she wish, hope, pray and dream for?

His magnetic promises were short lived. Magical words faded away in to the thin air of her living. The very thought of his touch tormented her. The kisses that were warm and inviting left her cold and numb.

He deserted her like the first man—I am ashamed of calling myself a man now. The blue sky fell and crushed her in to pieces. I leave it up to the readers to imagine how you would feel if you were in her place—my keyboards only got wet.

Men, like animals, walk away when done with grazing. But are women just the pastures to be deserted after the breeding seasons? We stand equal in breathing oxygen, letting the cardiac pump the same color blood. Yet why do we (Men) shift the beam of a balance to weigh heavier on women?

I am so sorry for being a man myself and bringing out this story in a harsh and crude way. It hurts both ways. But truth lies unhurt. May peace prevail and happiness knock every lives.

Best Wishes !!

Note: Selden is not a real name. It’s just chosen to represent many similar every day stories of struggling women around the world. 

Happy days

If you Ever wondered when you would get your doses of happiness!!!

I keep watching my days  and I realized that my days are happiest when I travel to different places and get to talk to many different faces, plus when I get to smell the fragrance of these beautiful flowers. 

These are some moments of my happy days :-) 


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Why we shouldn’t judge a country by its GDP

Raj Kumar:

This is interesting and informative too.

Originally posted on ideas.ted.com:

Gross Domestic Product has become the yardstick by which we measure a country’s success. But, says Michael Green, GDP isn’t the best way to measure a good society. His alternative? The Social Progress Index, which measures things like basic human needs and opportunity.

Analysts, reporters and big thinkers love to talk about Gross Domestic Product. Put simply, GDP, which tallies the value of all the goods and services produced by a country each year, has become the yardstick by which we measure a country’s success. But there’s a big, elephant-like problem with that: GDP only accounts for a country’s economic performance, not the happiness or well-being of its citizens. With GDP, if your richest 100 people get richer, your GDP rises … but most of your citizens are just as badly off as they were before.

That’s one of the reasons the team that I lead at the Social Progress…

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How Your iPhone Can Help You Keep Your New Year’s Resolutions

Originally posted on TIME:

It’s almost New Year’s Day, which means it’s time for a new you (because the previous 365 days didn’t give you the opportunity to grow or change, apparently). But this time, you’re committed to making real progress, to reach your goals, and to make a difference in your life.

You can start by avoiding these resolution pitfalls, but if you need some help, turn to your iPhone. A supercomputer in the palm of your hands, it has the power to improve your life (when you’re not using it to play Clash of Clans, anyway).

If you doubt that, check out these five resolutions and the apps that can help you keep them.

Change Your Outlook

Admit it, the state of the world has turned you into a bit of a Scrooge lately. Well, you don’t need three ghosts to snap you out of it.

First, try chronicling the…

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One Simple and Easy New Year’s Resolution Guaranteed to Make You Happier

Raj Kumar:

Simple and effective tips :-)

Originally posted on TIME:

Apparently 45% of Americans make New Year’s resolutions. Losing weight, getting organized, and spending less money are the top three, according to a study in the Journal of Clinical Psychology.

These — and others, like falling in love, staying fit, and spending more time with family — are great. But they are huge goals that require a lot of work and willpower. I’m not against that. But I feel like we are all working really hard as it is, so I would like to offer a resolution that is really simple but one that can make your life more awesome:

Add more joy.

Instead of saying you want to lose weight, eat more foods that bring you joy. French fries may taste great, but you feel guilty afterwards and that’s the opposite of joy. What food makes you feel awesome when and after you eat it? My bet is…

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Can we upgrade democracy for the Internet era?

Raj Kumar:

This is interesting…..

Originally posted on ideas.ted.com:

“If the Internet is the new printing press, then what is democracy for the Internet era?” asks Argentinian activist Pia Mancini in today’s TED Talk (How to upgrade democracy for the Internet era), filmed this week in Brazil at TEDGlobal 2014.

Without an answer to that important question, Mancini and her friends set out to create one, starting with the design of DemocracyOS.org. DemocracyOS.org is an open-source web application that is designed to become a bridge between citizens. Every bill introduced in Argentina’s Congress gets immediately translated into plain language on the app. Taking an even bigger leap of faith, Mancini and her colleagues ran for elections last year. They didn’t win, but they gained clout, and next month, Congress will be using DemocracyOS to discuss with citizens three pieces of legislation. Says Mancini, “It was our way of hacking the political system.”

Watch the talk.


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